Hypnotic ways of dealing with pain or discomfort

The reaction that people often have towards pain, especially pain which seems unbearable is, they tell (sometimes yell) themselves that they “have got to” deal with the pain.

It often becomes a case of “fight or flight”, almost like a panic.

There are many different techniques for pain relief that I have come across and practiced and some of them work better than others. Some of these were remedies, EFT tapping techniques as well as deep breathing techniques and others.
In this blog, I will teach you a technique which is probably one of the most powerful pain relief techniques I know of when applied and practiced.

Here is the technique…

I would like you to consider this….

As you are sitting and reading this, I’d like you to begin by becoming aware of any noises that are around you…
Starting by paying attention to noises that are close by.. and then going further and further in to the distance.
As you continue to read this you can also become aware of what else you can see around your peripheral, you can probably be aware of the color(s) of the walls around you and possibly some other items too which are in the room
It is also interesting that, as you continue to read and also notice the sounds you hear (possibly a clock ticking..)and what you can also see while you are continuing to read..

You can also become aware of your body's physical sensations, such as your toes on your right foot and then also your left foot too.
As you continue to read this with interest and wonder about this exercise and its possible effect on relieving pain, it would be nice to become aware that there are certain parts of your body right now that feel somewhat more comfortable than other parts of your body.
You can also be curious about the different sensations in your body and how one arm (I don't know which) seems heavier than the other arm..

Now, you can also notice your breathing rate and its heaviness etc..,

As you take that relaxing deep breath …..... it is kind of interesting to also begin to notice the blinking rate of your eyes as they may be slowing down and becoming more relaxed with a certain feeling of comfortable heaviness.

As you carry on reading you will probably have noticed that your thoughts in your head have become somewhat quieter and more peaceful and that things which may have bothered you before …although they may still be there but right now you’re somehow more comfortable with them.

The point is, when one connects with oneself deeper, one can also begin to become more at peace and at ease inside and that automatically allows the body to relax more and feel greater comfort.
Instead of trying to push the pain away, you can allow yourself to become more aware of other sensation in your body as well as around you that is going on at the same time, this creates an altered state in which the pain lessens and feels more manageable now.

A better understanding of bullying

Recently I was working with a particular distressed child, say his name was David. According to his Neurologist David was suffering from daily anxiety headaches.
After a bit of exploring with David, I discovered that there was a certain bully in his class who seemed to be terrorizing him.
I asked David to give me an example.
He said that, that day Sammy the bully had thrown paper planes at him and called him “stupid”.
I then inquired from David....”so what did you do?”
David’s response was a funny face which could be interpreted as a look of cynicism...

Many kids have had the experience of being teased by a friend or sibling on occasion. Usually, such scenarios are done in a friendly manner and perceived by both involved, as a "game".

But there are unfortunately many serious cases where children get bullied on a constant basis both physically and emotionally.

Usually such children would not be aware that they are being “bullied” per se and will not complain about the unpleasant experiences that occur in school etc., rather they would tend to find reasons not to go to school or even become physically sick on a frequent basis.

What I see is interesting from my experience in working with many such cases, is that often the child being bullied does not tend to have a very successful strategy to make what is happening to them stop.
Instead they go into their own imagination and dream and devise all sorts of unrealistic plans and ideas of how to get back at that bully.
These internal thoughts and dialogues within the bullied child’s mind will often take up a big chunk of their day and disrupt much of their learning.

Because of this, much of the bullied child's verbal or physical response to the situation when it occurs only happens in their mind. And in reality they will also expect that the bully will know exactly how much it is bothering them inside (since they told them so...in their mind).

In matter of fact, the child bullying does not really get to learn of the extent and effect of their actions until some grown up, perhaps a teacher, or parent decides to get involved.

So, what I am suggesting is that rather than parents offering different solutions to their children, it would be far more helpful if parents taught their children to respond appropriately.
Something like.. “It really bothers me, when you do that to me” , or simply "Stop it", in a firm sounding voice.

School, as tough as it may be for a child, is a learning experience for life. It would help a lot if parents or educators would learn to stand back and observe the patterns of behaviors and correct them where it makes sense.

Sometimes, we as parents attempt to step into the child’s shoes. This makes us regress to what it felt like when we were in a similar situation as a child and makes us feel helpless. Our children can pick up our feelings of helplessness and feel even less secure. If we remember that children learn and adapt amazingly, we can really help them thrive and grow through their problem...all they need is the opportunity.

This blog is more about being aware of patterns than how to deal with the issue.


This blog is taken from http://www.menachemschloss.com/2012/04/16/understanding-bullying/ In the future I will be blogging more on the subject of working practically with kids and their challenges.